My Instagram feed has been wall to wall Dolly Parton tributes this past week, and rightly so. Losing her has genuinely felt personal for a lot of people, myself included.
I didn’t want to write another “five things Dolly taught us” post. Everyone’s doing that, and most of it will be forgotten by tomorrow. But a few things about her life stopped me mid scroll. Not just because of the music, although have you seen the duet with Miley Cyrus? Just wow. But because they were about business, and about being a woman who refused to shrink to make anyone else comfortable.
She turned down Elvis. She built a library out of grief. She answered every insult with a punchline sharper than the insult itself. And she spent five decades being asked to pick a side, and simply never did.
None of it was luck. All of it was a decision, made over and over again, to stay entirely herself.
If you’re running your own business and quietly wondering whether you’re allowed to do things your way, here’s what I think we can all take from her.
1. Say no to things that don’t serve you
In 1974, Elvis wanted to record “I Will Always Love You.” The night before recording, his manager rang Dolly demanding half the publishing rights. That was standard practice for anything Elvis touched.
Dolly said no. It broke her heart at the time. Two decades later, Whitney Houston’s cover of that same song made her a fortune.
I see so many of you saying yes to the collaboration that costs more than it gives, or the client who doesn’t value what you do, because the opportunity looks too good to turn down. Dolly said no to Elvis. You are allowed to say no to that thing you really don’t want to do too.
2. Turn your hardest experiences into something positive
Dolly’s father never learned to read. He was ashamed of it his whole life. She built the Imagination Library because of him: free books, sent to children all over the world, still running today. He lived long enough to hear the kids call her “the book lady.”
She took a painful, private experience and used it to change millions of lives.
Whatever brought you to your business in the first place, the frustration, the gap you couldn’t find filled anywhere else, the thing nobody else seemed to understand, that’s not just your backstory. That’s your brand, if you let it be.
3. Know who you are and don’t compromise on it
People called her look cheap. Her answer? “It costs a lot of money to look this cheap.” She never once dressed down to be taken seriously. She made her appearance and her manner key parts of her brand.
This is the conversation I have on repeat with the women in my membership. So many of us (me included!) try to sand down our personality to look more “professional” online, and it just makes us forgettable. Being memorable will always beat being palatable.
4. Let your critics fuel you, not shrink you
“I’m not offended by all the dumb blonde jokes, because I know I’m not dumb, and I know I’m not a blonde.” That’s a straight quote from Dolly. She turned the joke into an empire before anyone else got to the punchline.
Criticism designed to belittle her became one of the most iconic responses in entertainment history. Next time a comment stings, ask yourself what she’d do with it… and if it’s saying more about the person sharing their ‘opinion’ than it is about you.
5. You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to
For decades, Dolly faced pressure to pick a political side, from both directions. Her answer never changed: “I’m not in politics. I’m an entertainer.”
Staying out of a fight is a decision you’re allowed to make too. You do not owe every trending debate your opinion, especially when it has nothing to do with your business or the people you serve.
The real point behind all of it
Since Dolly’s passing, my feed has been flooded with things about her I never knew. She was a true legend. But I think that’s the actual point here. Some people do things purely for applause. Others do things to make a difference.
I think we all know which one Dolly was.
If you’re sat there wondering whether your work is interesting enough, whether you’re allowed to say no, or whether it’s safe to just be yourself online, take this as your sign. You don’t need a bigger personality, a louder opinion or a perfectly polished feed. You need to stop shrinking.
Fancy more of this in your feed?
I talk about exactly this, staying true to yourself while building a business that actually works, over on Instagram most days.
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